HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

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After the excitement of a wedding and moving into the marital home, we need to know that marriage is a journey and couples need to make intentional efforts to steer it towards its success to keep it's PASSION ALIVE..

1. Couple  Face-Chatting. 

Couples need to set aside a time for regular heart-to-heart talks to make sure that they are on the same page in their relationship. Such sessions also give couples the chance to share about areas in their relationship that they would like to work on together to make their bond stronger.

Couples Face-chat should be effective, so couples need to intentionally make time for it. Be present physically in the same space with your spouse, put your mobile phones aside, and make eye contact. As an analogy, Couple Face-Chat is like a carpark lot where you can park your issues until you next visit it again and pick up from where you left off. An estimated 30 minutes to an hour of Couple Face-Chat atleast once every week may be helpful for some couples to start with, but many have found it beneficial to increase the times per week.

2. Do things and have fun together.

Couples should alway try spending time doing things together, laughing together, letting your hair down and having fun together are some things a couple should have in their relationship. Experiencing such moments together helps couples to bond and create shared memories. You may even consider signing up as a couple to attend Family Life Education workshops to pick up lifeskills to help grow your marriage! Very interesting.

3. Share your moments

Helping and consoling each other in moments of disappointments or frustrations as couples, allows your lives to come together as one which is truly what a marriage should be. As you offer each other your presence, a comforting hug and support, you are living out your marriage vows – to love, comfort and honour each other.

4. Setting goals

Most of us are quite accustomed to planning and setting goals for our careers and our personal development. It shouldn’t be any different with your marriage! Romance will not just happen on its own and relationships will not blossom by chance without any effort. Setting goals as a couple, planning your dates and keeping them, and honouring your marriage vows are some of the efforts you can make to grow your marriage. We made sure to do our best during courtship. So, let’s make an effort to do even better after marriage!

5. Be willing to say “sorry”

Always remember this no one is perfect. When the time comes to say “sorry”, say it and mean it. It may take a bit more time and effort to rebuild the trust that has been broken, but it can be done if a couple puts their hearts to it together. .

6. Be part of a community

The advantage of plugging yourselves into a community of married couples is that you will be surrounded by other couples who can be an encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in check.

In encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in tag.

MARRIAGE IS LIKE GOING TO BUY A SHOE

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When you put on an oversize shoe, get ready to drag it along through out your life here on Earth and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the tied   pains through out your life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

SINGLES OHHH, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that is favourable with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey. 

It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.

2. POSITION:

Not all shoe sizes are put in the same shop.

There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and there in you will  find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values

3. PERCEPTIONS:

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counselors and Relationship coaches). Are very importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).

NOTE :"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."

Ladies who get highly motivated when they attend a or weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooh🤝. The wedding is just one day. 

After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

Ask questions

-Where is this shoe made from? (Background)

-What's the size (Values)

-How much (His/Her interest)

-How long will it last (His/Her Character)

-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility)

-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they

would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A LADY IS DATING A MARRIED MAN

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Once a lady accepts to date a married man, she automatically agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as A PERSON OF LOW VALUE. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet

 you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you.

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your

 picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse dispose.

Tips to Building a Strong Marriage or Relationship

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Building a good, solid and long lasting relationship or marriage is all about the following tactics.

#1. Always answer the phone call when your spouse calls. if possible, keep your phones turned off when you’re spending quality time together.

#2. Forgive quickly. This sounds simple, but it is one of the most challenging parts of a marriage relationship for many. On the flip side, when you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly ask for forgiveness.

#3. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Don’t spend time with people who will tear down your marriage or may even tempt you to compromise your character.

#4. Make sex a priority. A good marriage relationship is built on more than sex, but it is an important element of a strong marriage.

#5. Keep communication lines open. Don’t assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling. Ask them, and listen attentively when they are talking.

#6. Join a thriving community of faith. A good church and regular fellowship with other believers can make a huge difference in your lives.

#7. Pick your battles. Don’t waste time on nitpicking. If you believe the issue is truly important, discuss it in a respectful way with your spouse.

#8. PRAY together. It is one of the most intimate acts a couple can experience together, and it will strengthen your bond.

#9. Try to be the biggest servant in the house. Don’t keep score of how well your spouse is serving you. Instead, ask yourself how you can better serve your spouse.

#10. Remember that your spouse can never meet all of your needs—they were not designed for that. Look to God as your source of satisfaction, and build friendships with others who will support your marriage.

#11. Keep in mind that you don’t always need to offer solutions for your spouse’s problems. Sometimes a hug and a listening ear communicate more love than your advice.

#12. Remember that even in a strong marriage, it is rare that both spouses are feeling strong at the same time. It’s normal for husband and wife to take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

IMMEDIATE KILLER OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE.

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There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for:

1. Family

2. Lack of Proper Communication 

3. Always Finding Fault

4. Selfishness

5. Unforgiveness

6. Loose Boundaries

7. The Past

8. Dishonesty

9. Pride

10. Jealousy and lack of trust

12. Lack of interest

Love is like a plant. If you don't feed it and take care of it every day, it will die eventually.

THINGS WOMEN HATE TO SEE THEIR MEN DOING IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.

1. YOU ALLOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO DISRESPECT YOUR WOMAN

 You have failed as a Man or husband if or when you allow your family and friends disrespect your woman/wife. Any one who disrespect your woman/wife in a relationship or marriage, disrespect you. It's as simple as that. Avoid talking bad about your woman/wife in a public place so that she won't get disrespected. Don't be too quick to share the negative attitude of your woman/wife to families and friends because it will reduce her person before them. Your woman/wife issues should be handle in private or at home alone. Men should take note.

 2. BEATEN UP A WOMAN/WIFE: Women are not kids. Some men are indeed a wife beater. No woman can stand a man who beat the living hell out of her often over a little misunderstanding. Beating your woman/wife diminishes the respect she had for you. It takes away all the love, affection and feelings ,thereby making you to look like a boy who don't know what relationship/marriage is all about. Why would you beat up your woman? A Man who raises or lay a hand on his wife or woman is a beast. Please men control your anger,l know women can be annoying some times. Work away when your woman upset you.

 3. BEING STINGY TO HER

No woman can stand a STINGY man in a marriage or relationship. Women love their men or guys spending on them,to them it gives fulfillment and shows that the Man loves them. If you can't provide for your wife or woman,someone else will do it for you. Even when your woman is a skilled professional and works in a government offices,she still need your sweat( money). She can use her money buy anything she likes,.

 Send some to her parents and maybe save a little for emergencies. Always be on a forefront as a Man to provide for the family. Ladies l hope l am making a point. (Women love men spending on them). No woman like a STINGY man.

 4. CHEATING ON HER

Few guys or men cheat just to pay back,while some just for fun. Women hate a guy or a man who cheated on them. Some women sees a man who cheated in a relationship or marriage as an irresponsible compound complicated FOOL that has no regard for women. Unlike men,women are blessed with a forgiven heart. A woman can let go the hurt but it is still fresh in her memory and the wounds still heal but cheating on her after everything she has gone through with you,she will never forget it. Don't cheat on a good woman if you don't want to see the true color or beast in her. No woman can stand a cheating husband or man. Women are indeed a complex begin, but it takes a patient and understanding man to know their dos and don'ts if the relationship or marriage will go smoothly. 

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