Monday, October 19, 2020

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A LADY IS DATING A MARRIED MAN




Once a lady accepts to date a married man, she automatically agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as A PERSON OF LOW VALUE. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....
My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet
 you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you.

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your
 picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse dispose.

Saturday, October 17, 2020

Tips to Building a Strong Marriage or Relationship




Building a good, solid and long lasting relationship or marriage is all about the following tactics.
#1. Always answer the phone call when your spouse calls. if possible, keep your phones turned off when you’re spending quality time together.

#2. Forgive quickly. This sounds simple, but it is one of the most challenging parts of a marriage relationship for many. On the flip side, when you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly ask for forgiveness.

#3. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Don’t spend time with people who will tear down your marriage or may even tempt you to compromise your character.

#4. Make sex a priority. A good marriage relationship is built on more than sex, but it is an important element of a strong marriage.

#5. Keep communication lines open. Don’t assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling. Ask them, and listen attentively when they are talking.

#6. Join a thriving community of faith. A good church and regular fellowship with other believers can make a huge difference in your lives.

#7. Pick your battles. Don’t waste time on nitpicking. If you believe the issue is truly important, discuss it in a respectful way with your spouse.

#8. PRAY together. It is one of the most intimate acts a couple can experience together, and it will strengthen your bond.

#9. Try to be the biggest servant in the house. Don’t keep score of how well your spouse is serving you. Instead, ask yourself how you can better serve your spouse.

#10. Remember that your spouse can never meet all of your needs—they were not designed for that. Look to God as your source of satisfaction, and build friendships with others who will support your marriage.

#11. Keep in mind that you don’t always need to offer solutions for your spouse’s problems. Sometimes a hug and a listening ear communicate more love than your advice.

#12. Remember that even in a strong marriage, it is rare that both spouses are feeling strong at the same time. It’s normal for husband and wife to take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

Friday, October 16, 2020

IMMEDIATE KILLER OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE.



There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for:

1. Family

2. Lack of Proper Communication 

3. Always Finding Fault

4. Selfishness

5. Unforgiveness

6. Loose Boundaries

7. The Past

8. Dishonesty

9. Pride

10. Jealousy and lack of trust

12. Lack of interest

Love is like a plant. If you don't feed it and take care of it every day, it will die eventually.

Tuesday, October 6, 2020

THINGS WOMEN HATE TO SEE THEIR MEN DOING IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.





1. YOU ALLOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO DISRESPECT YOUR WOMAN
 You have failed as a Man or husband if or when you allow your family and friends disrespect your woman/wife. Any one who disrespect your woman/wife in a relationship or marriage, disrespect you. It's as simple as that. Avoid talking bad about your woman/wife in a public place so that she won't get disrespected. Don't be too quick to share the negative attitude of your woman/wife to families and friends because it will reduce her person before them. Your woman/wife issues should be handle in private or at home alone. Men should take note.

 2. BEATEN UP A WOMAN/WIFE: Women are not kids. Some men are indeed a wife beater. No woman can stand a man who beat the living hell out of her often over a little misunderstanding. Beating your woman/wife diminishes the respect she had for you. It takes away all the love, affection and feelings ,thereby making you to look like a boy who don't know what relationship/marriage is all about. Why would you beat up your woman? A Man who raises or lay a hand on his wife or woman is a beast. Please men control your anger,l know women can be annoying some times. Work away when your woman upset you.

 3. BEING STINGY TO HER
No woman can stand a STINGY man in a marriage or relationship. Women love their men or guys spending on them,to them it gives fulfillment and shows that the Man loves them. If you can't provide for your wife or woman,someone else will do it for you. Even when your woman is a skilled professional and works in a government offices,she still need your sweat( money). She can use her money buy anything she likes,.
 Send some to her parents and maybe save a little for emergencies. Always be on a forefront as a Man to provide for the family. Ladies l hope l am making a point. (Women love men spending on them). No woman like a STINGY man.

 4. CHEATING ON HER
Few guys or men cheat just to pay back,while some just for fun. Women hate a guy or a man who cheated on them. Some women sees a man who cheated in a relationship or marriage as an irresponsible compound complicated FOOL that has no regard for women. Unlike men,women are blessed with a forgiven heart. A woman can let go the hurt but it is still fresh in her memory and the wounds still heal but cheating on her after everything she has gone through with you,she will never forget it. Don't cheat on a good woman if you don't want to see the true color or beast in her. No woman can stand a cheating husband or man. Women are indeed a complex begin, but it takes a patient and understanding man to know their dos and don'ts if the relationship or marriage will go smoothly. 

 Hello !!!! Are we communicating?

Monday, September 14, 2020

COMMANDMENTS GOVERNING A GOOD MARRIAGE TO MEN.


   1. Don't have another woman apart from your wife
   2. Thou shall not speak evil about your wife to your family.
   3. Remember the labour of your wife when you were poor. So when you're rich honour her.
   4. Don't compare your wife to any woman even your mother.
   5. 6 days maximum shall thee work 1 day shall be a Sabbath day for your wife.
  6. Honour your father and mother in_ law so that their daughter will not return to them.
  7. Don't insult your wife in public so that people will not know your foolishness.
  8. Forgive your wife 70 x7 in 1 day.
  9. Thou shall make your wife happy at all times. Always ask her: Are you okay?
  10. Thou shall not say to your wife, leave my house. No matter what. Because you are the one that should leave. Yes, she owns the house.




Thursday, July 2, 2020

Today you hear the say man is born, Tomorrow you hear he is dead.
A man lives in a mansion today, Tomorrow he lives
underground.
A man drives a car today, Tomorrow an ambulance
drives him.
A man reads biology today, Tomorrow a biography
is been read of him.
A man eats whatever he wants today, Tomorrow he
becomes food for insects.
A man is always early for work today, Tomorrow he
is termed late Mr./Mrs.
A man is seen resting in his house today, Tomorrow he is resting in a coffin. And they say "Rest In Peace"!
A man eats all kinds of fruits in his house today,
Tomorrow he becomes manure to those trees.
A man is known today as the richest man ever,
Tomorrow he doesn't even know where or what will
happen to his riches.
What is life after all?
Plan your life because you may not see tomorrow.
But when your life is well planned, you won't be
afraid of anything.
#ACT RIGHT AND LIVE GODLY. ALWAYS BE A HELPING HAND TO OTHERS.
Come to think of this?...
1. Eternal life = free
2. Church entrance = free
3. Salvation = free
4. God's love = free
5. Breath of life = free
A. Cigarette = pay
B. Prostitution = pay
C. Alcohol = pay
D. Nightclub entrance fee = pay
E. Powers to rule the world = pay
Then why are people paying for hell while PARADISE is free?
Think twice...
Believe in Jesus and you shall be saved...
We always think of Valentine's day
Birth day
Father's day
Mother's day
Children's day
Our day,
Farmer's day
Teacher's day
Christmas day
Independence day
Boxing day,
This day,
That day,
Day in Day out.
Have you ever thought of Judgement Day?, is it going to be a day of celebration or condemnation for you? If you are safe, what about your friends and loved ones. Show them love by telling them about the Judgement Day.

Thursday, June 4, 2020

STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH

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STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH THOUGHT TIMES

It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has lasted or is presently, because all  relationships will fit direct or indirectly in any of  relationship stages described below.

1 The first stage is the infatuation stage. Every relationship begins with the first stage. It offen starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely s..xually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

2. The second stage is the understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

3. The third stage is the disturbances stage:  it is at this stage that must youths experience break-up, this stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of  courtship. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

4. The fouth stage is the opinion maker stage : Here the both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship. Here the opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed. You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

5. The firth stage is the moulding stage.  Here You all  have your own expectations from an ideal partner. Both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering or implusive.

6. The sixth stage is the happy stage: If you relationship successfully pass through the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other. Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely.

7. The seventh stage of the doubting stage: at this stage, after several years both of you have been in a relationship with each other. In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships.  And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship. You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.

8. The eighth stage is the s..xual exploration stage. At this stage when your s..x  life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your s..x drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in s..x. In this stage, you either give up on passionate s..x or constantly look for ways to make s..x  more exciting. If s..xual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make s..x  more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer.

9. The ninth stage is the complete trust.  This is the happiest stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted. In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted. As pleasant as this final stage of love may be, it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else at any time if you fail to express your romance to your lover.

If you are in a relationship for a while and you may have experienced all or most of these stages. And if you are still in a young relationship, don’t let the dark side of these relationship stages scare you.

Identify your present stage…..


LOVE, RELATIONSHIP ANALYSIS AND MENTORING

A WOMAN AS A LIABILITY Vs A WOMAN AS AN ASSET.