TOP SECRETS IN SUCESSFUL MARRIAGE

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             1st Secret 

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.

            2nd Secret 

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

            3rd Secret 

Every  marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

              4th Secret 

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

             5th Secret 

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance 

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness 

Third party influence 

Stinginess

Stubbornness 

Lack of love 

Rudeness

Laziness 

Disrespect 

Cheating 

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

             6th Secret 

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 

              7th Secret 

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

             8th Secret 

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

            9th Secret 

Marriage is not a contract. It is  permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

           10th Secret

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages. Send to those you care about because  you never know who you may be helping. May God bless you all.

HUSBAND'S SHOULD KNOW WHAT HURTS A WIFE MOST IN MARRIAGE

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1. It hurts a wife when the husband listens to the advice of other women trying to impress them but ignores hers.

2. It hurts a wife when the husband carries himself in public as if he is not married, as if he is not proud of the love he shares with her.

3. It hurts a wife when the husband would rather watch pornography and touch himself than make love to her.

4. It hurts a wife when the husband would defend the privacy of his phone and attack his wife because of his phone activity as if what is in his phone is more important than his marriage.

5. It hurts a wife when she tries her best to cover the husband only to keep hearing others telling her about the dishonourable things her husband is doing.

6. It hurts a wife when the husband would rather confide in another woman and praise another woman.

7. It hurts a wife when she tries her best to be a good wife, cook for him, serve him, stay sexy for him, stay faithful to him; but he just doesn't notice her effort.

8. It hurts a wife when the husband allows his mother to bully her and micro manage their home.

9. It hurts a wife when the husband uses the secrets she confided in him to insult her, mock her and attack her.

10. It hurts a wife when he expects her to do everything to support his dream and yet he has never cared to find out and support her dreams.

11. It hurts a wife when the husband mistreats her but then he expects great sex.

12. It hurts a wife when she has to beg her own husband for attention and she is reduced to competing against his friends for his priority spot.

13. It hurts a wife when the husband will openly stare and flirt with other women yet he barely notices her beauty, new hairstyle or compliment her body.

14. It hurts a wife when the husband who promised her marriage and growing old together is the one person breaking the home.

Please share to educate young couples not to fall in any of these wicknesses.

Type Of Ladies We Should Be Very Careful With In Life.

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In as much as you want to run things with many girls, you need to be extremely careful or else you will fall into the hands of the ones that will ruin you life completely in to a regret.

1. Any girl that keep complaining that all guys are the same is a suspect. You can never know if every men are the same without testing countless of them. Those types of Women are mostly cheats, avoid them.

2. Any girl with so much Tattoo on her body is not a sign of responsiveness so try to avoid them.

3. Any girl that wears nose ring, waist chain or foot chain should be avoided because those things doesn’t show sign of responsiveness.

4. Any girl that always turn off her phone when she is with you is having cockroach in her cupboard and should be avoided.

5. Any girl who is not working but always travels should be avoided as her traveling mission may affect you negatively.

6. Any lady that drinks too much alcohol and also smokes should be avoided for your own good.

7. Any lady that doesn’t care about your future but concerned about herself should be avoided. Those types of girls would want you to keep spending on them without minding whether you have savings or not.

8. Any girl that don’t like telling you about herself is not to be trusted but be avoided as you can’t understand her.

Is there anyone that’s not on the list? Please u can then just add it to help somebody somewhere.

What do you think about this? Kindly drop your comments.

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMPLETE & FINISHED IN A RELATIONSHIP

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No English dictionary  has been able to explain the difference between the two words "COMPLETE and FINISHED". Some people say there's no difference between COMPLETE and FINISHED, but there is: When you marry the right woman, you are COMPLETE! When you marry the wrong woman you are FINISHED! ..And when your wife catches you with another woman, you are ...COMPLETELY FINISHED!  And if you marry a wife who likes shopping so much, you are FINISHED COMPLETELY
    

  Wives, we should learn to trust our husbands. At times your husband may come back home late and give you one reason you cannot find in any book,
Let #love and #trust prevail.

Imagine Jonah coming back after 3 days of absence, no phone call, no message, nothing, only to tell his wife he was swallowed by a fish and vomited after 3 days  - just imagine how that sounded.
The wife will feel like breaking his head.
Swallowed by fish, really?

Are you talking to a baby?
What an insult, lying to me as if I don't have any brains? Which fish, mackerel or tilapia"?
Even if Jonah reported the issue to a pastor, that pastor will call him aside and say brother Jonah, why not pray against lying spirits..
Neighbors will shout "ahh madam, you don't understand, the fish is another woman".
But between you and I, Jonah was telling the truth

To Every Wife and Husband out there...
#TRUST_IS_POWERFUL! 

And a necessary tool for sustaining all relationships.

HOW CAN COUPLES BUILD A HAPPY MARRIED HOME

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When you see happy couple, don't envy them or assume they are lucky to find each other. 

There is no happy home anywhere

- if you see any be sure they were made. Being a good person or being religious doesn't make a happy home neither does riches and wealth. Marrying the most beautiful woman or the most handsome man doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage either. 

Many believers even think marrying another good believer is a sure way to having a happy home but many have been disappointed.

What then makes up a happy home?  A happy home is a function of mutual fulfilment derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union. Having a happy home can only be achieved by deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, it can only happen if the other partner want and agrees to build a happy home.

To achieve a happy home, both parties must first offer themselves as a living sacrifice on the altar of their marriage.  They must deny themselves and be willing to accept their cross.

 In a happy home, ego and self are buried in the grave of marital bliss. Partners in a happy home don't think too much about themselves but the happiness of their spouse. 

 The journey to a happy home can be initiated by the man or the woman. This journey starts with 

contentment and diligence. 

Then it continues in daily 

Forgiveness and mutual tolerance.  

No couple is happy when they continue to look at each other's 

weaknesses or offences. 

They can only be happy if they choose to accept each other's shortcomings and offenses and take their pains and hurts to the Almighty God, instead of romancing with them. 

 Happy couples don't compare their marriage with others, they are happy and contented with what's funny likewise if we are not they have. 

Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice but the price is not cheap. Only the humble and the broken can buy it.

The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media.  They are designed by the couple. The ideal home mustn't follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy. 

You can initiate the journey to a happy home today no matter how far you have traveled in The t path of bitternes  unforgiveness.

  An unhappy home is the junior sibling to hell fire. A happy home is a reflection of heavenly bliss. The choice is yours today. 

I Give Peace a chance in your marriage today and let New things begin.

HOW CAN A WOMAN APPROACH A MAN SHE LOVES

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To get attention of such a dude takes basically two good steps. they are:

1. Admire his outfit. This means any day the guy dresses and u see him either too clean or not just tell him wow bros u are looking good, u make sense or use any sweet word u know that can convince him or that can draw the attention tell him two or three times he may give u d attention u need.

2. If this sign above cannot get his attention for u, then u can take it to God in prayers. God bless u

WAYS TO IDENTIFY TIME WAISTERS

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DEAR LADY, TIME WASTERS

1) Their Actions don't match their Words.

 They talk about Marriage, but when it's time for them to WALK their TALK, they go AWOL, MIA.  (Away Without Leave, Missing in Action) 

And return with excuses everywhere. 

"I'll come see your Father/Mother next week", next week will come and his line is switched off, and of course, you'll hear super story later.

 "My Mum wants to meet you" but that meeting will never happen. 

They keep talking, promising, just to calm you down whenever you are uncomfortable and complain, but still, nothing tangible has happened.

2) They are Confused about What they Want. 

Confusion in a Man is a sign of a lack of CLARITY and INTENTION.

Awon "I don't know yet, but let's see how and where it goes"

They don't even know HOW and WHERE they want the Relationship to go... 

A Man that is confused about what he wants from you, his ATTENTION and AFFECTION always going off and on like Cameroon ENEO power authority.

CHASING YOU today, FLEEING FROM YOU tomorrow,..

You won't hear from him for a complete 2 Weeks, suddenly he comes back with no tangible reason whatsoever begging and fawning over you. 

The Relationship self looks Confused

Even you, you are confused. 

There's a high chance you'll hear "I'm sorry, no vex" in the end.

When you see a confused Man, excuse him, let him go and clear his head first, and make up his mind, before he comes to propose.. To avoid stories that touch. 

3) THEY HAVE UNREASONABLE GOALS

They want to buy a Limousine first before they come and see your parents, they want to have 3 Million in their account before fixing date, buy a house first, after 5 years, even wheelbarrow they have not been able to buy, even land them never see, and yet your 5 years has gone.

As a Lady, one of the disservice you can do yourself is to ALLOW a Man who has no LONG TERM/PERMANENT plan for you to occupy your Space and Life and waste your Time and Emotions.

Be Ye Harmless as Doves, and WISE as Serpents"