WAYS TO IDENTIFY TIME WAISTERS

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DEAR LADY, TIME WASTERS

1) Their Actions don't match their Words.

 They talk about Marriage, but when it's time for them to WALK their TALK, they go AWOL, MIA.  (Away Without Leave, Missing in Action) 

And return with excuses everywhere. 

"I'll come see your Father/Mother next week", next week will come and his line is switched off, and of course, you'll hear super story later.

 "My Mum wants to meet you" but that meeting will never happen. 

They keep talking, promising, just to calm you down whenever you are uncomfortable and complain, but still, nothing tangible has happened.

2) They are Confused about What they Want. 

Confusion in a Man is a sign of a lack of CLARITY and INTENTION.

Awon "I don't know yet, but let's see how and where it goes"

They don't even know HOW and WHERE they want the Relationship to go... 

A Man that is confused about what he wants from you, his ATTENTION and AFFECTION always going off and on like Cameroon ENEO power authority.

CHASING YOU today, FLEEING FROM YOU tomorrow,..

You won't hear from him for a complete 2 Weeks, suddenly he comes back with no tangible reason whatsoever begging and fawning over you. 

The Relationship self looks Confused

Even you, you are confused. 

There's a high chance you'll hear "I'm sorry, no vex" in the end.

When you see a confused Man, excuse him, let him go and clear his head first, and make up his mind, before he comes to propose.. To avoid stories that touch. 

3) THEY HAVE UNREASONABLE GOALS

They want to buy a Limousine first before they come and see your parents, they want to have 3 Million in their account before fixing date, buy a house first, after 5 years, even wheelbarrow they have not been able to buy, even land them never see, and yet your 5 years has gone.

As a Lady, one of the disservice you can do yourself is to ALLOW a Man who has no LONG TERM/PERMANENT plan for you to occupy your Space and Life and waste your Time and Emotions.

Be Ye Harmless as Doves, and WISE as Serpents"

All marriages go through communication mishaps.

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When Your Spouse talk, #listen-Completely. 

        Most people never listen, if there is one thing a woman adores is that when she is talking, there should be someone to listen and give her a listening ear. 

       The most important thing in communication is to #HEAR what isn’t being said. Communicate unto the other person that which you would want him to communicate unto you if your positions were reversed. Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. Communication works for those who work at it. There is only one rule for being a good talker – learn to listen. Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening. To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others. I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.

CHRISTIANS WHEN YOU STOP PRAYING.

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When a GOD fearing and prayer brand Christian stops praying Immediately, you start misbehaving.

 Immediately you start making poor choices in important matters of life.

 Immediately you become unserious with everything.

Immediately you start losing your values and opportunities.

Immediately you lose spiritual receptors and become carnal.

 

Immediately you lose inspiration and excellence and start making errors in everything about LIFE.

 

Immediately you lose spiritual freshness and start decaying. 

Immediately, you start losing grounds economically in the society because The LORD left you for the LORD GOD is a holy GOD. Causing you to directly start losing things.

Immediately you start seeing everyone as an enemy and fake including your destiny helpers. 

Immediately you stop seeing the value and beauty of life and start contemplating suicide, unnecessary competition and strife.

 Immediately, you become more susceptible to witchcraft.

Immediately, your light become darkness.

 Immediately, you start comforting yourself that your TV experiences are enough and fellowship is not important .

 

 Anytime prayer stops, it is quickly replaced and overtaken by a wrong habit and spirit, because nature habors no vacuum. Watch it!

Pray even if you don't feel like

Praying is not a feeling is a commitment! 

God bless you  START A PRAYING HABIT!!!

HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

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After the excitement of a wedding and moving into the marital home, we need to know that marriage is a journey and couples need to make intentional efforts to steer it towards its success to keep it's PASSION ALIVE..

1. Couple  Face-Chatting. 

Couples need to set aside a time for regular heart-to-heart talks to make sure that they are on the same page in their relationship. Such sessions also give couples the chance to share about areas in their relationship that they would like to work on together to make their bond stronger.

Couples Face-chat should be effective, so couples need to intentionally make time for it. Be present physically in the same space with your spouse, put your mobile phones aside, and make eye contact. As an analogy, Couple Face-Chat is like a carpark lot where you can park your issues until you next visit it again and pick up from where you left off. An estimated 30 minutes to an hour of Couple Face-Chat atleast once every week may be helpful for some couples to start with, but many have found it beneficial to increase the times per week.

2. Do things and have fun together.

Couples should alway try spending time doing things together, laughing together, letting your hair down and having fun together are some things a couple should have in their relationship. Experiencing such moments together helps couples to bond and create shared memories. You may even consider signing up as a couple to attend Family Life Education workshops to pick up lifeskills to help grow your marriage! Very interesting.

3. Share your moments

Helping and consoling each other in moments of disappointments or frustrations as couples, allows your lives to come together as one which is truly what a marriage should be. As you offer each other your presence, a comforting hug and support, you are living out your marriage vows – to love, comfort and honour each other.

4. Setting goals

Most of us are quite accustomed to planning and setting goals for our careers and our personal development. It shouldn’t be any different with your marriage! Romance will not just happen on its own and relationships will not blossom by chance without any effort. Setting goals as a couple, planning your dates and keeping them, and honouring your marriage vows are some of the efforts you can make to grow your marriage. We made sure to do our best during courtship. So, let’s make an effort to do even better after marriage!

5. Be willing to say “sorry”

Always remember this no one is perfect. When the time comes to say “sorry”, say it and mean it. It may take a bit more time and effort to rebuild the trust that has been broken, but it can be done if a couple puts their hearts to it together. .

6. Be part of a community

The advantage of plugging yourselves into a community of married couples is that you will be surrounded by other couples who can be an encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in check.

In encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in tag.

MARRIAGE IS LIKE GOING TO BUY A SHOE

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When you put on an oversize shoe, get ready to drag it along through out your life here on Earth and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the tied   pains through out your life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

SINGLES OHHH, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that is favourable with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey. 

It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.

2. POSITION:

Not all shoe sizes are put in the same shop.

There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and there in you will  find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values

3. PERCEPTIONS:

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counselors and Relationship coaches). Are very importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).

NOTE :"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."

Ladies who get highly motivated when they attend a or weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooh🤝. The wedding is just one day. 

After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

Ask questions

-Where is this shoe made from? (Background)

-What's the size (Values)

-How much (His/Her interest)

-How long will it last (His/Her Character)

-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility)

-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they

would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A LADY IS DATING A MARRIED MAN

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Once a lady accepts to date a married man, she automatically agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as A PERSON OF LOW VALUE. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet

 you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you.

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your

 picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse dispose.

Tips to Building a Strong Marriage or Relationship

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Building a good, solid and long lasting relationship or marriage is all about the following tactics.

#1. Always answer the phone call when your spouse calls. if possible, keep your phones turned off when you’re spending quality time together.

#2. Forgive quickly. This sounds simple, but it is one of the most challenging parts of a marriage relationship for many. On the flip side, when you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly ask for forgiveness.

#3. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Don’t spend time with people who will tear down your marriage or may even tempt you to compromise your character.

#4. Make sex a priority. A good marriage relationship is built on more than sex, but it is an important element of a strong marriage.

#5. Keep communication lines open. Don’t assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling. Ask them, and listen attentively when they are talking.

#6. Join a thriving community of faith. A good church and regular fellowship with other believers can make a huge difference in your lives.

#7. Pick your battles. Don’t waste time on nitpicking. If you believe the issue is truly important, discuss it in a respectful way with your spouse.

#8. PRAY together. It is one of the most intimate acts a couple can experience together, and it will strengthen your bond.

#9. Try to be the biggest servant in the house. Don’t keep score of how well your spouse is serving you. Instead, ask yourself how you can better serve your spouse.

#10. Remember that your spouse can never meet all of your needs—they were not designed for that. Look to God as your source of satisfaction, and build friendships with others who will support your marriage.

#11. Keep in mind that you don’t always need to offer solutions for your spouse’s problems. Sometimes a hug and a listening ear communicate more love than your advice.

#12. Remember that even in a strong marriage, it is rare that both spouses are feeling strong at the same time. It’s normal for husband and wife to take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.