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Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot Once a Pastor was preaching about holiness inside AND out. A brother interrupted the Pastor and asked this question:  " When you eat a banana,  what do you eat? The inside? Or the outside ?"  The Pastor answered him, "the inside." The brother responded to him,  " so God is more concerned with what is on the inside (the heart) than what is on the outside (appearance).  The Pastor immediately received a word from God and asked the brother this question,  " when you go to buy bananas,  What do you notice first? The inside? Or the outside?"  The brother said,   " the outside."  The Pastor replied,  " because Holiness IS inside AND out.  Having a clean heart is important.  But dressing as children of God is also important. "

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused giving them S..x, Some have even turned into S..x toys just to keep their man Let us be very open here. S..x might not be the reason these guys walk away! Remove s..x from a relationship and see that most girls don't have anything else to offer their man! Keep S..x aside, what do you have to offer your  man Can you support him Spiritually? Can you Support him physically/Financially? How about Mentally? All you do is Demand Money for Bags, money for shoes,money for a phones, money for clothes and unnecessary Outings etc Making him spend unnecessarily.  What are you even bringing to the table??? Have you ever sat him down and helped him plan about his future??? Try to be a Woman that a man will Always regret losing for the rest of his Life. Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man! Build you...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot When a man goes into choosing A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage house full time. If you choose A HOUSEWIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY. If you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN , you should accept that she DEPENDS on you. If you choose to be with a STRONG BRAVE WOMAN,   you need to accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways. If you choose a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, you need to accept all the EXPENSES. If you choose to be with A GREAT/CAREER WOMAN , you must also accept that she is HARD and FIRM. If you choose A DADDY'S GIRL , get ready to pamper her and treat her like a baby. NO WOMAN IS PERFECT A woman has her own " GOOD THING " that defines who she is and makes her unique. Go for what can your tolerate....

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot  Couples who wish to enjoy their marital relationship, should NEVER for WHAT SO EVER reason creat a room for secrets in marriage.  Secrets totally wipes out trust in marriage. Secrets destroy marriage.  Your spouse should AVOID acting loke a detective, investigator or secret service agent. Successful marriages are built on transparency, openness and truthfulness.  Couples should know, It takes years to build trust, but it takes a single secret to destroy it and it takes sincere apologies and a lifetime of proven honest living to restore and repair it.  Respect your spouse and honor your commitment. Live an honorable, open and honest life.  “The two shall become one flesh.”

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot Marriage is a journey most singles dream to pass through. Before you embark on the marriage journey, you should know so we'll  that in marriage, There are days you wish you had remained single. There are also months you look at your spouse and wonder 'what was i thinking when I married him/her? There are times you'll wish you had married someone different. There are times you feel like  divorce is the only option left. There are instances you feel betrayed beyond recovery. There are also times you feel your love is been taken for granted.               Beloveth You are not alone. The truth is that every marriage has it's fair share of trials/difficult moments. Every marriage goes through rough times. Every Husband and wife experiences perplexing moments. Remember it's the rough surfaces that sharpen the best. Rough times ...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot               1st Secret  Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.             2nd Secret  Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.             3rd Secret   Every  marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For bett...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot 1. It hurts a wife when the husband listens to the advice of other women trying to impress them but ignores hers. 2. It hurts a wife when the husband carries himself in public as if he is not married, as if he is not proud of the love he shares with her. 3. It hurts a wife when the husband would rather watch pornography and touch himself than make love to her. 4. It hurts a wife when the husband would defend the privacy of his phone and attack his wife because of his phone activity as if what is in his phone is more important than his marriage. 5. It hurts a wife when she tries her best to cover the husband only to keep hearing others telling her about the dishonourable things her husband is doing. 6. It hurts a wife when the husband would rather confide in another woman and praise another woman. 7. It hurts a wife when she tries her best to be a good wife, cook for him, serve him, stay sexy for him, stay...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot In as much as you want to run things with many girls, you need to be extremely careful or else you will fall into the hands of the ones that will ruin you life completely in to a regret. 1. Any girl that keep complaining that all guys are the same is a suspect . You can never know if every men are the same without testing countless of them. Those types of Women are mostly cheats, avoid them. 2. Any girl with so much Tattoo on her body is not a sign of responsiveness so try to avoid them. 3. Any girl that wears nose ring, waist chain or foot chain should be avoided because those things doesn’t show sign of responsiveness. 4. Any girl that always turn off her phone when she is with you is having cockroach in her cupboard and should be avoided. 5. Any girl who is not working but always travels should be avoided as her traveling mission may affect you negatively. 6. Any lady that drinks too much alcohol a...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot No English dictionary  has been able to explain the difference between the two words "COMPLETE and FINISHED". Some people say there's no difference between COMPLETE and FINISHED, but there is: When you marry the right woman, you are COMPLETE! When you marry the wrong woman you are FINISHED! ..And when your wife catches you with another woman, you are ...COMPLETELY FINISHED!  And if you marry a wife who likes shopping so much, you are FINISHED COMPLETELY        Wives, we should learn to trust our husbands. At times your husband may come back home late and give you one reason you cannot find in any book, Let #love and #trust prevail. Imagine Jonah coming back after 3 days of absence, no phone call, no message, nothing, only to tell his wife he was swallowed by a fish and vomited after 3 days  - just imagine how that sounded. The wife will feel like breaking his ...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot When you see happy couple, don't envy them or assume they are lucky to find each other.  There is no happy home anywhere - if you see any be sure they were made. Being a good person or being religious doesn't make a happy home neither does riches and wealth. Marrying the most beautiful woman or the most handsome man doesn't guarantee happiness in marriage either.  Many believers even think marrying another good believer is a sure way to having a happy home but many have been disappointed. What then makes up a happy home?  A happy home is a function of mutual fulfilment derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union. Having a happy home can only be achieved by deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, it can only happen if the other partner want and agrees to build a happy home. To achieve a happy home , both parties...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot To get attention of such a dude takes basically two good steps. they are: 1. Admire his outfit . This means any day the guy dresses and u see him either too clean or not just tell him wow bros u are looking good, u make sense or use any sweet word u know that can convince him or that can draw the attention tell him two or three times he may give u d attention u need. 2. If this sign above cannot get his attention for u, then u can take it to God in prayers. God bless u

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot DEAR LADY, TIME WASTERS 1) Their Actions don't match their Words.  They talk about Marriage, but when it's time for them to WALK their TALK, they go AWOL, MIA.  (Away Without Leave, Missing in Action)  And return with excuses everywhere.  "I'll come see your Father/Mother next week", next week will come and his line is switched off, and of course, you'll hear super story later.  "My Mum wants to meet you" but that meeting will never happen.  They keep talking, promising, just to calm you down whenever you are uncomfortable and complain, but still, nothing tangible has happened. 2) They are Confused about What they Want.  Confusion in a Man is a sign of a lack of CLARITY and INTENTION. Awon "I don't know yet, but let's see how and where it goes" They don't even know HOW and WHERE they want the Relationship to go...  A Man that is confused about what...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot When Your Spouse talk, #listen-Completely.          Most people never listen, if there is one thing a woman adores is that when she is talking, there should be someone to listen and give her a listening ear.         The most important thing in communication is to #HEAR what isn’t being said. Communicate unto the other person that which you would want him to communicate unto you if your positions were reversed. Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. Communication works for those who work at it. There is only one rule for being a good talker – learn to listen. Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening. To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a gui...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot When a GOD fearing and prayer brand Christian stops praying Immediately, you start misbehaving.  Immediately you start making poor choices in important matters of life.  Immediately you become unserious with everything. Immediately you start losing your values and opportunities. Immediately you lose spiritual receptors and become carnal.   Immediately you lose inspiration and excellence and start making errors in everything about LIFE.   Immediately you lose spiritual freshness and start decaying.  Immediately, you start losing grounds economically in the society because The LORD left you for the LORD GOD is a holy GOD. Causing you to directly start losing things. Immediately you start seeing everyone as an enemy and fake including your destiny helpers.  Immediately you stop seeing the value and beauty of life and start contemplating suicide, unnecessary competition and strife...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot After the excitement of a wedding and moving into the marital home, we need to know that marriage is a journey and couples need to make intentional efforts to steer it towards its success to keep it's PASSION ALIVE.. 1. Couple  Face-Chatting .  Couples need to set aside a time for regular heart-to-heart talks to make sure that they are on the same page in their relationship. Such sessions also give couples the chance to share about areas in their relationship that they would like to work on together to make their bond stronger. Couples Face-chat should be effective, so couples need to intentionally make time for it. Be present physically in the same space with your spouse, put your mobile phones aside, and make eye contact. As an analogy, Couple Face-Chat is like a carpark lot where you can park your issues until you next visit it again and pick up from where you left off. An estimated 30 minu...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot When you put on an oversize shoe, get ready to drag it along through out your life here on Earth and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the tied   pains through out your life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. SINGLES OHHH, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things: 1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that is favourable with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey.  It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband. 2. POSITION: Not all ...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot Once a lady accepts to date a married man, she automatically agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as A PERSON OF LOW VALUE. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family. My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home..... My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet  you don't even know the name of the street where he lives..... My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, ...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot Building a good, solid and long lasting relationship or marriage is all about the following tactics. #1. Always answer the phone call when your spouse calls. if possible, keep your phones turned off when you’re spending quality time together. #2. Forgive quickly. This sounds simple, but it is one of the most challenging parts of a marriage relationship for many. On the flip side, when you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly ask for forgiveness. #3. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Don’t spend time with people who will tear down your marriage or may even tempt you to compromise your character. #4. Make sex a priority. A good marriage relationship is built on more than sex, but it is an important element of a strong marriage. #5. Keep communication lines open. Don’t assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling. Ask them, and listen attentively when they are tal...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for: 1. Family 2. Lack of Proper Communication  3. Always Finding Fault 4. Selfishness 5. Unforgiveness 6. Loose Boundaries 7. The Past 8. Dishonesty 9. Pride 10. Jealousy and lack of trust 12. Lack of interest Love is like a plant. If you don't feed it and take care of it every day, it will die eventually.

1. YOU ALLOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO DISRESPECT YOUR WOMAN  You have failed as a Man or husband if or when you allow your family and friends disrespect your woman/wife. Any one who disrespect your woman/wife in a relationship or marriage, disrespect you. It's as simple as that. Avoid talking bad about your woman/wife in a public place so that she won't get disrespected. Don't be too quick to share the negative attitude of your woman/wife to families and friends because it will reduce her person before them. Your woman/wife issues should be handle in private or at home alone. Men should take note.   2. BEATEN UP A WOMAN/WIFE : Women are not kids. Some men are indeed a wife beater. No woman can stand a man who beat the living hell out of her often over a little misunderstanding. Beating your woman/wife diminishes the respect she had for you. It takes away all the love, affection and feelings ,thereby making you to look like a boy who don't know what relationship/marria...

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot    1. Don't have another woman apart from your wife    2. Thou shall not speak evil about your wife to your family.    3. Remember the labour of your wife when you were poor. So when you're rich honour her.    4. Don't compare your wife to any woman even your mother.    5. 6 days maximum shall thee work 1 day shall be a Sabbath day for your wife.   6. Honour your father and mother in_ law so that their daughter will not return to them.   7. Don't insult your wife in public so that people will not know your foolishness.   8. Forgive your wife 70 x7 in 1 day.   9. Thou shall make your wife happy at all times. Always ask her: Are you okay?   10. Thou shall not say to your wife, leave my house. No matter what. Because you are the one that should leave. Yes, she owns the house.

Love,relationship analysis and mentoring Men Vs Women forum Blogspot NO_ONE_KNOWS_TOMORROW_BELOVET Today you hear the say man is born, Tomorrow you hear he is dead. A man lives in a mansion today, Tomorrow he lives underground. A man drives a car today, Tomorrow an ambulance drives him. A man reads biology today, Tomorrow a biography is been read of him. A man eats whatever he wants today, Tomorrow he becomes food for insects. A man is always early for work today, Tomorrow he is termed late Mr./Mrs. A man is seen resting in his house today, Tomorrow he is resting in a coffin. And they say "Rest In Peace"! A man eats all kinds of fruits in his house today, Tomorrow he becomes manure to those trees. A man is known today as the richest man ever, Tomorrow he doesn't even know where or what will happen to his riches. What is life after all? Plan your life because you may not see tomorrow. But when your life is well planned, you won't be afraid of anything. ...

  RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH TIMES, It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has lasted or is presently. This is because all relationships will fit direct or indirectly in any of the relationship stages described below.    THE FIRST STAGE:   It often starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely s..xually attracted to each other or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.   THE SECOND STAGE :   This is the understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and ro...