WAYS TO IDENTIFY TIME WAISTERS

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DEAR LADY, TIME WASTERS

1) Their Actions don't match their Words.

 They talk about Marriage, but when it's time for them to WALK their TALK, they go AWOL, MIA.  (Away Without Leave, Missing in Action) 

And return with excuses everywhere. 

"I'll come see your Father/Mother next week", next week will come and his line is switched off, and of course, you'll hear super story later.

 "My Mum wants to meet you" but that meeting will never happen. 

They keep talking, promising, just to calm you down whenever you are uncomfortable and complain, but still, nothing tangible has happened.

2) They are Confused about What they Want. 

Confusion in a Man is a sign of a lack of CLARITY and INTENTION.

Awon "I don't know yet, but let's see how and where it goes"

They don't even know HOW and WHERE they want the Relationship to go... 

A Man that is confused about what he wants from you, his ATTENTION and AFFECTION always going off and on like Cameroon ENEO power authority.

CHASING YOU today, FLEEING FROM YOU tomorrow,..

You won't hear from him for a complete 2 Weeks, suddenly he comes back with no tangible reason whatsoever begging and fawning over you. 

The Relationship self looks Confused

Even you, you are confused. 

There's a high chance you'll hear "I'm sorry, no vex" in the end.

When you see a confused Man, excuse him, let him go and clear his head first, and make up his mind, before he comes to propose.. To avoid stories that touch. 

3) THEY HAVE UNREASONABLE GOALS

They want to buy a Limousine first before they come and see your parents, they want to have 3 Million in their account before fixing date, buy a house first, after 5 years, even wheelbarrow they have not been able to buy, even land them never see, and yet your 5 years has gone.

As a Lady, one of the disservice you can do yourself is to ALLOW a Man who has no LONG TERM/PERMANENT plan for you to occupy your Space and Life and waste your Time and Emotions.

Be Ye Harmless as Doves, and WISE as Serpents"

All marriages go through communication mishaps.

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When Your Spouse talk, #listen-Completely. 

        Most people never listen, if there is one thing a woman adores is that when she is talking, there should be someone to listen and give her a listening ear. 

       The most important thing in communication is to #HEAR what isn’t being said. Communicate unto the other person that which you would want him to communicate unto you if your positions were reversed. Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. Communication works for those who work at it. There is only one rule for being a good talker – learn to listen. Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening. To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others. I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.

CHRISTIANS WHEN YOU STOP PRAYING.

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When a GOD fearing and prayer brand Christian stops praying Immediately, you start misbehaving.

 Immediately you start making poor choices in important matters of life.

 Immediately you become unserious with everything.

Immediately you start losing your values and opportunities.

Immediately you lose spiritual receptors and become carnal.

 

Immediately you lose inspiration and excellence and start making errors in everything about LIFE.

 

Immediately you lose spiritual freshness and start decaying. 

Immediately, you start losing grounds economically in the society because The LORD left you for the LORD GOD is a holy GOD. Causing you to directly start losing things.

Immediately you start seeing everyone as an enemy and fake including your destiny helpers. 

Immediately you stop seeing the value and beauty of life and start contemplating suicide, unnecessary competition and strife.

 Immediately, you become more susceptible to witchcraft.

Immediately, your light become darkness.

 Immediately, you start comforting yourself that your TV experiences are enough and fellowship is not important .

 

 Anytime prayer stops, it is quickly replaced and overtaken by a wrong habit and spirit, because nature habors no vacuum. Watch it!

Pray even if you don't feel like

Praying is not a feeling is a commitment! 

God bless you  START A PRAYING HABIT!!!

HOW TO STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

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After the excitement of a wedding and moving into the marital home, we need to know that marriage is a journey and couples need to make intentional efforts to steer it towards its success to keep it's PASSION ALIVE..

1. Couple  Face-Chatting. 

Couples need to set aside a time for regular heart-to-heart talks to make sure that they are on the same page in their relationship. Such sessions also give couples the chance to share about areas in their relationship that they would like to work on together to make their bond stronger.

Couples Face-chat should be effective, so couples need to intentionally make time for it. Be present physically in the same space with your spouse, put your mobile phones aside, and make eye contact. As an analogy, Couple Face-Chat is like a carpark lot where you can park your issues until you next visit it again and pick up from where you left off. An estimated 30 minutes to an hour of Couple Face-Chat atleast once every week may be helpful for some couples to start with, but many have found it beneficial to increase the times per week.

2. Do things and have fun together.

Couples should alway try spending time doing things together, laughing together, letting your hair down and having fun together are some things a couple should have in their relationship. Experiencing such moments together helps couples to bond and create shared memories. You may even consider signing up as a couple to attend Family Life Education workshops to pick up lifeskills to help grow your marriage! Very interesting.

3. Share your moments

Helping and consoling each other in moments of disappointments or frustrations as couples, allows your lives to come together as one which is truly what a marriage should be. As you offer each other your presence, a comforting hug and support, you are living out your marriage vows – to love, comfort and honour each other.

4. Setting goals

Most of us are quite accustomed to planning and setting goals for our careers and our personal development. It shouldn’t be any different with your marriage! Romance will not just happen on its own and relationships will not blossom by chance without any effort. Setting goals as a couple, planning your dates and keeping them, and honouring your marriage vows are some of the efforts you can make to grow your marriage. We made sure to do our best during courtship. So, let’s make an effort to do even better after marriage!

5. Be willing to say “sorry”

Always remember this no one is perfect. When the time comes to say “sorry”, say it and mean it. It may take a bit more time and effort to rebuild the trust that has been broken, but it can be done if a couple puts their hearts to it together. .

6. Be part of a community

The advantage of plugging yourselves into a community of married couples is that you will be surrounded by other couples who can be an encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in check.

In encouragement to both of you. Hearing their success stories as well as failures, and sharing yours help keep your expectations of your own marriage in tag.

MARRIAGE IS LIKE GOING TO BUY A SHOE

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When you put on an oversize shoe, get ready to drag it along through out your life here on Earth and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the tied   pains through out your life." One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.

SINGLES OHHH, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that is favourable with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey. 

It is important to know where you're going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband.

2. POSITION:

Not all shoe sizes are put in the same shop.

There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club. Your wife or husband can't just be everywhere.

Stick to your values and there in you will  find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values

3. PERCEPTIONS:

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (pastors, marriage counselors and Relationship coaches). Are very importantly to avoid much time wasting , simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (Almighty God).

NOTE :"You do not prepare for wedding, you prepare for marriage."

Ladies who get highly motivated when they attend a or weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just the wedding ooh🤝. The wedding is just one day. 

After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it.

Ask questions

-Where is this shoe made from? (Background)

-What's the size (Values)

-How much (His/Her interest)

-How long will it last (His/Her Character)

-Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility)

-Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will accept you the way you are)

Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they

would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with beautiful shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is the size, you can't know the size from afar so come close, build a relationship first but remember 'you are not permitted to try it before you buy it'.

And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you'd consult the manufacturer and let Him have His way in your marriage.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN A LADY IS DATING A MARRIED MAN

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Once a lady accepts to date a married man, she automatically agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as A PERSON OF LOW VALUE. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet

 you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you.

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your

 picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse dispose.

Tips to Building a Strong Marriage or Relationship

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Building a good, solid and long lasting relationship or marriage is all about the following tactics.

#1. Always answer the phone call when your spouse calls. if possible, keep your phones turned off when you’re spending quality time together.

#2. Forgive quickly. This sounds simple, but it is one of the most challenging parts of a marriage relationship for many. On the flip side, when you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly ask for forgiveness.

#3. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Don’t spend time with people who will tear down your marriage or may even tempt you to compromise your character.

#4. Make sex a priority. A good marriage relationship is built on more than sex, but it is an important element of a strong marriage.

#5. Keep communication lines open. Don’t assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling. Ask them, and listen attentively when they are talking.

#6. Join a thriving community of faith. A good church and regular fellowship with other believers can make a huge difference in your lives.

#7. Pick your battles. Don’t waste time on nitpicking. If you believe the issue is truly important, discuss it in a respectful way with your spouse.

#8. PRAY together. It is one of the most intimate acts a couple can experience together, and it will strengthen your bond.

#9. Try to be the biggest servant in the house. Don’t keep score of how well your spouse is serving you. Instead, ask yourself how you can better serve your spouse.

#10. Remember that your spouse can never meet all of your needs—they were not designed for that. Look to God as your source of satisfaction, and build friendships with others who will support your marriage.

#11. Keep in mind that you don’t always need to offer solutions for your spouse’s problems. Sometimes a hug and a listening ear communicate more love than your advice.

#12. Remember that even in a strong marriage, it is rare that both spouses are feeling strong at the same time. It’s normal for husband and wife to take turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

IMMEDIATE KILLER OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE.

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There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for:

1. Family

2. Lack of Proper Communication 

3. Always Finding Fault

4. Selfishness

5. Unforgiveness

6. Loose Boundaries

7. The Past

8. Dishonesty

9. Pride

10. Jealousy and lack of trust

12. Lack of interest

Love is like a plant. If you don't feed it and take care of it every day, it will die eventually.

THINGS WOMEN HATE TO SEE THEIR MEN DOING IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.

1. YOU ALLOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO DISRESPECT YOUR WOMAN

 You have failed as a Man or husband if or when you allow your family and friends disrespect your woman/wife. Any one who disrespect your woman/wife in a relationship or marriage, disrespect you. It's as simple as that. Avoid talking bad about your woman/wife in a public place so that she won't get disrespected. Don't be too quick to share the negative attitude of your woman/wife to families and friends because it will reduce her person before them. Your woman/wife issues should be handle in private or at home alone. Men should take note.

 2. BEATEN UP A WOMAN/WIFE: Women are not kids. Some men are indeed a wife beater. No woman can stand a man who beat the living hell out of her often over a little misunderstanding. Beating your woman/wife diminishes the respect she had for you. It takes away all the love, affection and feelings ,thereby making you to look like a boy who don't know what relationship/marriage is all about. Why would you beat up your woman? A Man who raises or lay a hand on his wife or woman is a beast. Please men control your anger,l know women can be annoying some times. Work away when your woman upset you.

 3. BEING STINGY TO HER

No woman can stand a STINGY man in a marriage or relationship. Women love their men or guys spending on them,to them it gives fulfillment and shows that the Man loves them. If you can't provide for your wife or woman,someone else will do it for you. Even when your woman is a skilled professional and works in a government offices,she still need your sweat( money). She can use her money buy anything she likes,.

 Send some to her parents and maybe save a little for emergencies. Always be on a forefront as a Man to provide for the family. Ladies l hope l am making a point. (Women love men spending on them). No woman like a STINGY man.

 4. CHEATING ON HER

Few guys or men cheat just to pay back,while some just for fun. Women hate a guy or a man who cheated on them. Some women sees a man who cheated in a relationship or marriage as an irresponsible compound complicated FOOL that has no regard for women. Unlike men,women are blessed with a forgiven heart. A woman can let go the hurt but it is still fresh in her memory and the wounds still heal but cheating on her after everything she has gone through with you,she will never forget it. Don't cheat on a good woman if you don't want to see the true color or beast in her. No woman can stand a cheating husband or man. Women are indeed a complex begin, but it takes a patient and understanding man to know their dos and don'ts if the relationship or marriage will go smoothly. 

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COMMANDMENTS GOVERNING A GOOD MARRIAGE TO MEN.

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   1. Don't have another woman apart from your wife

   2. Thou shall not speak evil about your wife to your family.

   3. Remember the labour of your wife when you were poor. So when you're rich honour her.

   4. Don't compare your wife to any woman even your mother.

   5. 6 days maximum shall thee work 1 day shall be a Sabbath day for your wife.

  6. Honour your father and mother in_ law so that their daughter will not return to them.

  7. Don't insult your wife in public so that people will not know your foolishness.

  8. Forgive your wife 70 x7 in 1 day.

  9. Thou shall make your wife happy at all times. Always ask her: Are you okay?

  10. Thou shall not say to your wife, leave my house. No matter what. Because you are the one that should leave. Yes, she owns the house.

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NO_ONE_KNOWS_TOMORROW_BELOVET

Today you hear the say man is born, Tomorrow you hear he is dead.

A man lives in a mansion today, Tomorrow he lives

underground.

A man drives a car today, Tomorrow an ambulance

drives him.

A man reads biology today, Tomorrow a biography

is been read of him.

A man eats whatever he wants today, Tomorrow he

becomes food for insects.

A man is always early for work today, Tomorrow he

is termed late Mr./Mrs.

A man is seen resting in his house today, Tomorrow he is resting in a coffin. And they say "Rest In Peace"!

A man eats all kinds of fruits in his house today,

Tomorrow he becomes manure to those trees.

A man is known today as the richest man ever,

Tomorrow he doesn't even know where or what will

happen to his riches.

What is life after all?

Plan your life because you may not see tomorrow.

But when your life is well planned, you won't be

afraid of anything.

#ACT RIGHT AND LIVE GODLY. ALWAYS BE A HELPING HAND TO OTHERS.

Come to think of this?...

1. Eternal life = free

2. Church entrance = free

3. Salvation = free

4. God's love = free

5. Breath of life = free

A. Cigarette = pay

B. Prostitution = pay

C. Alcohol = pay

D. Nightclub entrance fee = pay

E. Powers to rule the world = pay

Then why are people paying for hell while PARADISE is free?

Think twice...

Believe in Jesus and you shall be saved...

We always think of Valentine's day

Birth day

Father's day

Mother's day

Children's day

Our day,

Farmer's day

Teacher's day

Christmas day

Independence day

Boxing day,

This day,

That day,

Day in Day out.

Have you ever thought of Judgement Day?, is it going to be a day of celebration or condemnation for you? If you are safe, what about your friends and loved ones. Show them love by telling them about the Judgement Day.

STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH

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STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH THOUGHT TIMES

It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has lasted or is presently, because all  relationships will fit direct or indirectly in any of  relationship stages described below.

1 The first stage is the infatuation stage. Every relationship begins with the first stage. It offen starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely s..xually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

2. The second stage is the understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

3. The third stage is the disturbances stage:  it is at this stage that must youths experience break-up, this stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of  courtship. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

4. The fouth stage is the opinion maker stage : Here the both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship. Here the opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed. You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

5. The firth stage is the moulding stage.  Here You all  have your own expectations from an ideal partner. Both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering or implusive.

6. The sixth stage is the happy stage: If you relationship successfully pass through the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other. Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely.

7. The seventh stage of the doubting stage: at this stage, after several years both of you have been in a relationship with each other. In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships.  And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship. You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.

8. The eighth stage is the s..xual exploration stage. At this stage when your s..x  life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your s..x drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in s..x. In this stage, you either give up on passionate s..x or constantly look for ways to make s..x  more exciting. If s..xual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make s..x  more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer.

9. The ninth stage is the complete trust.  This is the happiest stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted. In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted. As pleasant as this final stage of love may be, it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else at any time if you fail to express your romance to your lover.

If you are in a relationship for a while and you may have experienced all or most of these stages. And if you are still in a young relationship, don’t let the dark side of these relationship stages scare you.

Identify your present stage…..

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARITAL HOME

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARITAL HOME? AND STOP ASKING WHEN I AM GETTING MARRIED

 

Everyone be it you are a man or a woman should know we all have our weaknesses. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of him or her strength. Manage the weaknesses of your spouse with love to get the best out of it. Do not be too critical, argumentative, excessively nagging and demanding. These things kills love because they show lack of understanding of the weaknesses of your spouse.

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel here on Earth. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future for an enjoyable happy marriage life.

Every marriage has its own challenges. Newly wedded couples in the field should know that marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow "For better for worse". In "sickness" and in "health" you will be there for each other. Then what suddenly happened? Married couples should make friends with married partners.

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. United you stand, divided you fall and fail in all your individual dreams.

Getting married is just like declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness

Third party influence

Stinginess

Stubbornness

Lack of love

Rudeness

Laziness

Disrespect

Cheating

Let the couples came together in fighting all this points in other to maintain a happy and enjoyable marriage atmosphere.

There is NO perfect marriage here on Earth. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Couples should not be careless with there marriage.

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

Getting married is equal to taking a huge risk in life. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might seek for divorce but marriage is for togetherness until death does you apart.

Marriage is not a contract, it's a life engagement which depend on how prepared you are in this engagement. Because it is permanent . It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind when the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce. Friends are the highest devil in a marriage.

Before going into marriage know that every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is compared to a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home. Deliberately input Goodness into your marriage to make it sweet for your spouse.

Today pray for your marriage and ask God to help you anywhere you are lacking in your marriage.

God bless you all.

MARRY A WIFE NOT A VIRGIN

Some or most guys think virginity makes a good wife.

Virginity is a pride to a woman. After your first copulation, it will exist no more. Don't thick of marrying her because she is a virgin,

 marry because she's a WIFE.

A good wife,is a crown of the husband. Seek that good wife. Any lady who failed as a daughter in her youthful single stage of life, is a mistake for a wife. Because a lady is trained as a daughter to become the crown of her husband. Marrying a virgin is a pride but it does not guarantee successful marriage.

Seek the good qualities that make a woman a wife. To those of u guy who are single, find a wife, I mean a good wife. Don't ruin your marriage for the want of a virgin.

Virginity does not guarantee a successful marriage.... And for the virgins acquire the good Qualities of a wife, don't make that pride you kept so long to the last day become a waste.

 

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Before I met my now-husband, I had never really met someone who I wanted to be with. I've had my fair share of chances of course, but it never felt right. My now-husband was not a virgin when we met. I honestly wasn't even planning on saving myself until marriage, but it was never a big part of our relationship. Of course, there were nights that we would have fun in the bedroom, and that would involve basically everything but sex. He knew I was a virgin and wanted my first time to be special. We would have long conversations about sex and what it meant to us, then I decided this is the man I'll marry. When he proposed after two years of dating, we got married five months after. To say we were excited was an understatement. Between gifts from my friends and things I've been collecting, I had such a sexy wardrobe to wear over the honeymoon. The morning after we were married, he woke up with me on top of him in one of the sexy outfits I brought with me. There was a little discomfort the first time, but since then, our sex life has been great. I have nothing to compare it to, but neither of us are complaining. Sex has brought us closer together.

 

We had sex on our wedding night. I was a virgin until marriage, but my husband lost his virginity very young and has had sex with countless women. I guess sex was more of a letdown than anything. I was extremely discouraged by my lack of experience and also insecure in knowing that he's had a lot of previous experience. I've always been led to believe that sex for the first time will be awkward, maybe painful, but so great because you're exploring new things together. But since we weren't exploring something new together, sex wasn't what I expected it would be. It brought out a lot of insecurities in me, and I haven't been able to overcome all of those insecurities just yet. I think sex in a marriage is a whole lot deeper than just two bodies. It's hard to explain. But I was let down. Some aspects have gotten better. I feel more confident in what I'm doing. The insecurity in having less experience than my husband, and my husband having far more experience than me is still there. 

WHY MEN LACK THE ROMANTIC PART

Let consider a man just returned home so hungry, and the lovely wife was in the kitchen preparing lunch for him. After sometime waiting he shouted

”mummy junior.” The wife rushed to the sitting room and replied, “yes m husband.” The hungry man said in a harsh loud voice, “what are you doing? I’m so hungry, how many hours will the food take to be done? Please go and get me food, I beg you in the name of God”.

After this shouting the wife will feel very bad because it seems as if her best is not appreciated she has been doing everything to meet up with the cooking, so her husband could eat as soon as he enters the house but couldn’t meet up. If there is one thing a woman adores and feels her guy or husband love her most is APPRECIATION.

Men ohhhhhhhhhhh are we there?  You don’t know her sacrifice to rush to make that cooking. And you shouted at her.  LET MUST THE MEN ALWAY TRY TO BE ROMANTIC Suppose you return back from work, you can try this. As you returned, instead of shouting “mummy junior”, call her romantic NAMES LIKE,

“sweety, where are you?”

Then walk slowly to that

kitchen, hug her from behind, kiss her

neck, take a deep breath and tell her

your food looks yummy. Then, as you

are holding her, wisper to her ears

“honey your baby is soo hungry”. I

swear when you do this she would, if

possible, turn to gas cooker to make

sure you eat immediately. She would

even bring some meat from the pot to

give you as bribe while she rounds up.

Most women are sweet and lovely. Go buy her flower this night, scatter the flower for bed. And see how she will give you the other food like crazy. We love our God given gift which is WOMAN. Please, stop shouting at a woman.

Men should always Keep an Eye on Upcoming Concerts Be on the lookout put for upcoming concerts and buy tickets to her favorite acts as soon as they are announced. People bond when sharing activities. Especially peak experience activities like art (music) and sports (sky diving, rock climbing, skiing).

May God give all the beautiful ladies a LOVELY AND CARING HUSBAND…

Ladies am I communicating?