STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH

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STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH THOUGHT TIMES

It doesn’t matter how long your relationship has lasted or is presently, because all  relationships will fit direct or indirectly in any of  relationship stages described below.

1 The first stage is the infatuation stage. Every relationship begins with the first stage. It offen starts with an intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely s..xually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each other and only focus on the good sides.

2. The second stage is the understanding stage. In this stage, both of you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families, exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so beautiful and romantic.

3. The third stage is the disturbances stage:  it is at this stage that must youths experience break-up, this stage usually forces its way into a happy romance after a few months of  courtship. Do you remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.

4. The fouth stage is the opinion maker stage : Here the both of you create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s commitment towards the relationship. Here the opinions and expectations about your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic or depressed. You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you up. It depresses you.

5. The firth stage is the moulding stage.  Here You all  have your own expectations from an ideal partner. Both of you try hard to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are domineering or implusive.

6. The sixth stage is the happy stage: If you relationship successfully pass through the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each other. Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each other and love each other intensely.

7. The seventh stage of the doubting stage: at this stage, after several years both of you have been in a relationship with each other. In this stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other relationships.  And somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy both of you are in the relationship. You start to think of your past relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on the relationship. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.

8. The eighth stage is the s..xual exploration stage. At this stage when your s..x  life starts to play a pivotal role. Both your s..x drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in s..x. In this stage, you either give up on passionate s..x or constantly look for ways to make s..x  more exciting. If s..xual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair. But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make s..x  more exciting, your relationship could get better and bring both of you a lot closer.

9. The ninth stage is the complete trust.  This is the happiest stage when both of you love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for granted. In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge to take each other for granted. As pleasant as this final stage of love may be, it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else at any time if you fail to express your romance to your lover.

If you are in a relationship for a while and you may have experienced all or most of these stages. And if you are still in a young relationship, don’t let the dark side of these relationship stages scare you.

Identify your present stage…..

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARITAL HOME

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARITAL HOME? AND STOP ASKING WHEN I AM GETTING MARRIED

 

Everyone be it you are a man or a woman should know we all have our weaknesses. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of him or her strength. Manage the weaknesses of your spouse with love to get the best out of it. Do not be too critical, argumentative, excessively nagging and demanding. These things kills love because they show lack of understanding of the weaknesses of your spouse.

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel here on Earth. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future for an enjoyable happy marriage life.

Every marriage has its own challenges. Newly wedded couples in the field should know that marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow "For better for worse". In "sickness" and in "health" you will be there for each other. Then what suddenly happened? Married couples should make friends with married partners.

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. United you stand, divided you fall and fail in all your individual dreams.

Getting married is just like declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness

Third party influence

Stinginess

Stubbornness

Lack of love

Rudeness

Laziness

Disrespect

Cheating

Let the couples came together in fighting all this points in other to maintain a happy and enjoyable marriage atmosphere.

There is NO perfect marriage here on Earth. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Couples should not be careless with there marriage.

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

Getting married is equal to taking a huge risk in life. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might seek for divorce but marriage is for togetherness until death does you apart.

Marriage is not a contract, it's a life engagement which depend on how prepared you are in this engagement. Because it is permanent . It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind when the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce. Friends are the highest devil in a marriage.

Before going into marriage know that every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is compared to a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home. Deliberately input Goodness into your marriage to make it sweet for your spouse.

Today pray for your marriage and ask God to help you anywhere you are lacking in your marriage.

God bless you all.

MARRY A WIFE NOT A VIRGIN

Some or most guys think virginity makes a good wife.

Virginity is a pride to a woman. After your first copulation, it will exist no more. Don't thick of marrying her because she is a virgin,

 marry because she's a WIFE.

A good wife,is a crown of the husband. Seek that good wife. Any lady who failed as a daughter in her youthful single stage of life, is a mistake for a wife. Because a lady is trained as a daughter to become the crown of her husband. Marrying a virgin is a pride but it does not guarantee successful marriage.

Seek the good qualities that make a woman a wife. To those of u guy who are single, find a wife, I mean a good wife. Don't ruin your marriage for the want of a virgin.

Virginity does not guarantee a successful marriage.... And for the virgins acquire the good Qualities of a wife, don't make that pride you kept so long to the last day become a waste.

 

AM I COMMUNICATING ???

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Before I met my now-husband, I had never really met someone who I wanted to be with. I've had my fair share of chances of course, but it never felt right. My now-husband was not a virgin when we met. I honestly wasn't even planning on saving myself until marriage, but it was never a big part of our relationship. Of course, there were nights that we would have fun in the bedroom, and that would involve basically everything but sex. He knew I was a virgin and wanted my first time to be special. We would have long conversations about sex and what it meant to us, then I decided this is the man I'll marry. When he proposed after two years of dating, we got married five months after. To say we were excited was an understatement. Between gifts from my friends and things I've been collecting, I had such a sexy wardrobe to wear over the honeymoon. The morning after we were married, he woke up with me on top of him in one of the sexy outfits I brought with me. There was a little discomfort the first time, but since then, our sex life has been great. I have nothing to compare it to, but neither of us are complaining. Sex has brought us closer together.

 

We had sex on our wedding night. I was a virgin until marriage, but my husband lost his virginity very young and has had sex with countless women. I guess sex was more of a letdown than anything. I was extremely discouraged by my lack of experience and also insecure in knowing that he's had a lot of previous experience. I've always been led to believe that sex for the first time will be awkward, maybe painful, but so great because you're exploring new things together. But since we weren't exploring something new together, sex wasn't what I expected it would be. It brought out a lot of insecurities in me, and I haven't been able to overcome all of those insecurities just yet. I think sex in a marriage is a whole lot deeper than just two bodies. It's hard to explain. But I was let down. Some aspects have gotten better. I feel more confident in what I'm doing. The insecurity in having less experience than my husband, and my husband having far more experience than me is still there. 

WHY MEN LACK THE ROMANTIC PART

Let consider a man just returned home so hungry, and the lovely wife was in the kitchen preparing lunch for him. After sometime waiting he shouted

”mummy junior.” The wife rushed to the sitting room and replied, “yes m husband.” The hungry man said in a harsh loud voice, “what are you doing? I’m so hungry, how many hours will the food take to be done? Please go and get me food, I beg you in the name of God”.

After this shouting the wife will feel very bad because it seems as if her best is not appreciated she has been doing everything to meet up with the cooking, so her husband could eat as soon as he enters the house but couldn’t meet up. If there is one thing a woman adores and feels her guy or husband love her most is APPRECIATION.

Men ohhhhhhhhhhh are we there?  You don’t know her sacrifice to rush to make that cooking. And you shouted at her.  LET MUST THE MEN ALWAY TRY TO BE ROMANTIC Suppose you return back from work, you can try this. As you returned, instead of shouting “mummy junior”, call her romantic NAMES LIKE,

“sweety, where are you?”

Then walk slowly to that

kitchen, hug her from behind, kiss her

neck, take a deep breath and tell her

your food looks yummy. Then, as you

are holding her, wisper to her ears

“honey your baby is soo hungry”. I

swear when you do this she would, if

possible, turn to gas cooker to make

sure you eat immediately. She would

even bring some meat from the pot to

give you as bribe while she rounds up.

Most women are sweet and lovely. Go buy her flower this night, scatter the flower for bed. And see how she will give you the other food like crazy. We love our God given gift which is WOMAN. Please, stop shouting at a woman.

Men should always Keep an Eye on Upcoming Concerts Be on the lookout put for upcoming concerts and buy tickets to her favorite acts as soon as they are announced. People bond when sharing activities. Especially peak experience activities like art (music) and sports (sky diving, rock climbing, skiing).

May God give all the beautiful ladies a LOVELY AND CARING HUSBAND…

Ladies am I communicating?

MARRIED COUPLES SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM PORNOGRAPHY

Are married couples encouraged to watch porn so as to boost their sex lives?  I WILL SHOUT my answer is in capital letter NO. What couples should KNOW more about porn.

1.  PORN IS DEMONIC: 

The principal aim of porn is not to help you improve your sex habit in marriage, it is to spread lust and break marriages. You cannot watch porn and not be lusted for you will expect your wife to have something bigger, rounder, and flatter or toner while the wife will expects the husband to have it larger down. What we should know is that most of this women acting porn are fake for they did plastic surgery, breast enlargement, bottom enlargement, manhood enlargement, etc. and they do not have to battle sagging and stretch marks because they aren't producing babies and breast feeding! Never compare your wife with a porn star, never! She is not a prostitute! Never expect your husband to have a bigger manhood, you are not a whore.

2.  PORN STARS ARE NOT MARRIED: 

A porn star should NEVER be the role model of any couple.  What you are watching is a display of lust between two singles who do not understand the meaning of marriage, responsibility and commitment. All they thick are to have sex in front of camera and make money.

3.THE ACTIONS ARE NOT ALL REALISTIC:

 Most of these actors are under the strong influence of drugs. The man goes for 10 rounds and he is not tired while the woman is moaning all through! That is simply crazy! In real life, you don't go 10 rounds at a time unless you want to die before your time, neither is your wife on cocaine or sex boosting drugs! If she goes 5 rounds, she deserves an award.

4.  CRAZY SOUND IN MOANING:

The moaning sound produced are artificial and based on business arrangement not out of pleasure. There is some moaning that simply doesn't make any sense. Married couples should not expect their spouse to moan that way because you are not producing a movie or grunting to keep your job, this is real life. Real life moaning is based on true pleasure.  What we should know is, pornography does not teach reality.

5.  IT IS PAINFUL:

 In marriage the man should be gentle, tender and affectionate towards the woman but in porn, he is rough, aggressive and blind to her pains. There is a way a man handles a woman she will experience pain no matter how long she has been having sex, and there is how deep he goes, she cringes in pain. These actresses have been trained to moan through their pain, they must not complain or cry, they have to act like they enjoyed it. It is physical and mental torture of women who are nothing but s..x toys to the money hungry porn  producer. If you handle your wife that way, you will keep giving her pain, not pleasure and the end result will only be a divorce.

REALISTIC S...X STYLE:

Most OR IF NOT ALL s..x styles used by these porn actors are not realistic unless you want to break your spouse's spinal cord. I do not know how a sane person will have sex with head down and legs hanging up. Some would even be handcuffed like criminals. Never try this with your spouse.

7. SOME PORNO STARS ARE KIDS:

How can children between age 10 and 16 who ought to know nothing called sex who were supposed to be busy with their studies flood the porn market? This is madness.

8.MASTURBATION:

 You cannot watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate when your spouse is not around and when you start enjoying masturbation instead of sex, you quit the sex altogether. Worst still, your sex life becomes a nightmare as you suffer from premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation or erectile dysfunction etc all this as a result of masturbation.

9.  ADDICTED TO PORN:

Once you become addicted to porn, automatically your thinking about the opposite sex gets warped. You see them as sex toys and go after anything in skirt including girls young enough to be your daughter. Pornography turns your thinking upside down.

10. ADULTEROUS:

Watching that thing consistently pushes you to desire another man's wife/husband or simply run after young boys and girls. Porn doesn't make sense, it will do your marriage more harm than good and you will eventually lose what you are desperately trying to keep.

You draw closer to God not far away from Him and your s..x life gradually becomes better.

Avoid pornography at all cost.

THE HIDDEN TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIP

1.     Communication, good communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people know what they want from the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between you.

 

2.     Any single who does not like s..x automatically implies you have nothing to do with marriage.  Be it a man or a woman, Don't create problems for yourself, because no man or woman can endure s..xless marriage. To a man, s..x  is food and if you are not ready to feed him please remain single.  To_a_woman, s..x is love, if she is not touched she feels unloved. 

 

     Christians most especially should note that, it is not a sin to be single but it      is a sin to marry and be denying your husband or wife s..x. 

 

3.     To accept a guy or a lady in a relationship, it is a two-person job. If you want your relationship to last, you cannot expect your partner to do all of the work. This works I am talking of includes general housework most especially if you both live together.  For a relationship to last, the both partners need to contribute physically and emotionally.  For any relationship running one way, might not last.

4.     As an individually, ask yourself why do good relationships fall apart. If anyone tells you relationships don't take work, they are lying you for partners and most people don't know why such situations do happen or why to go about it when a case arise. If you are in a good relationship, want to keep the attraction alive is trying to be a challenge overcomer for all relationships requires individual hardwork.

5.     Accepting your wrong and try to move towards her/him to resolve your issues and forgive your partner when they step out of line or fail to meet the expectations that you have of them. Understand why relationships fail and know when a relationship is worth keeping or letting go. Accepting wrongs and begging for apology with the intension never to fall back into the wrong you committed makes a relationship more mature and long lasting.

6.     Once in a relationship, you should think your couple, not people. When thinking about relationship problems it’s easy to think in terms of people, specifically who is right, who is wrong, who is screwed up, and who is really screwed up. This isn’t usually helpful and only leads to a blaming blaming and blaming game leading to nowhere.

7.     Always step away for a short time no matter how hurt you feel in the moment, for instant reacting leads to destruction which may only end up making you feel worse. Rather than react immediately and fall victim to your emotions, take a step back until you have relaxed a bit.( all this to avoid fighting or biting)

 

8.     Calmness uplifts most men in the heart of a woman’s love towards a man. A hurt somebody has nothing to say but only leaves us saying things we regret and exacerbating the conflict. Count to 10, take a series of deep breaths, and then decide how you want to react. →

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