There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for:
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IMMEDIATE KILLER OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE.
There are so many factors that can get in the way of a good marriage, but MOST often, they are the small, unnoticed things that make their way in. In order to make sure our marriages survive and thrive, here are some relationship killers every couple should be on the lookout for:
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1. YOU ALLOW YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO DISRESPECT YOUR WOMAN
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STAGES ALL RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH
STAGES ALL
RELATIONSHIPS MUST PASS THROUGH THOUGHT TIMES
It doesn’t matter how long your
relationship has lasted or is presently, because all relationships will fit direct or indirectly
in any of relationship stages described
below.
1 The first stage is the infatuation stage. Every relationship begins
with the first stage. It offen starts with an intense attraction and an
uncontrollable urge to be with each other. Both of you may be intensely
s..xually attracted to each other, or both of you may just love the cuddles and
each other’s company. In this stage, both of you overlook any flaws of each
other and only focus on the good sides.
2. The second stage is the understanding stage. In this stage, both of
you start getting to know each other better. You have long conversations with
your partner that stretches late into the night, and everything about your
partner interests and fascinates you. You talk about each other’s families,
exes, likes and dislikes and other innocent secrets, and life seems so
beautiful and romantic.
3. The third stage is the disturbances stage: it is at this stage that must youths
experience break-up, this stage usually forces its way into a happy romance
after a few months of courtship. Do you
remember the first fight or angry disagreement you and your partner had? For
the first time ever in the relationship, both of you confront each other over a
conflict, even though it’s sorted out quickly.
4. The fouth stage is the opinion maker stage : Here the both of you
create opinions about each other. As the months pass by, both of you know what
to expect from each other, and you make an assumption about your partner’s
commitment towards the relationship. Here the opinions and expectations about
your partner differ now and then in real life, it can either leave you ecstatic
or depressed. You don’t expect your man to buy you flowers, but he does. You
feel ecstatic. At the same time, you expect him to pick you up from the airport
on time. But he arrives an hour later because he forgot all about picking you
up. It depresses you.
5. The firth stage is the moulding stage. Here You all
have your own expectations from an ideal partner. Both of you try hard
to mould each other to fit your own wants in a perfect partner. This stage is a
lot about give and take, and both partners constantly try to subtly convince
each other to change their behavior towards the relationship. This is a power
struggle, and one that can end the relationship if both partners are
domineering or implusive.
6. The sixth stage is the happy stage: If you relationship successfully
pass through the moulding stage, both of you may have changed equally for each
other and understood each other’s expectations. In this stage, the relationship
cruises along perfectly and both of you may be blissfully happy with each
other. Almost always, this is the stage when both of you feel like a perfect
match. You may even decide to get engaged or get married. This happy stage is
also the stage of attachment when both of you truly feel connected to each
other and love each other intensely.
7. The seventh stage of the doubting stage: at this stage, after
several years both of you have been in a relationship with each other. In this
stage, you start comparing your relationship with other couples and other
relationships. And somewhere along the
way, doubts start to creep in. The intensity of the doubts depend on how happy
both of you are in the relationship. You start to think of your past
relationships, your exes, and other prospective partners. You tie your
happiness in life with your relationship. If you’re unhappy, you blame it on
the relationship. Would your relationship survive this stage? It definitely
could, as long as your relationship isn’t monotonous and repetitive.
8. The eighth stage is the s..xual exploration stage. At this stage when
your s..x life starts to play a pivotal
role. Both your s..x drives may change or one of you may get disinterested in
s..x. In this stage, you either give up on passionate s..x or constantly look
for ways to make s..x more exciting. If
s..xual interests start differing here, one of you may end up having an affair.
But on the other hand, if you find creative ways to make s..x more exciting, your relationship could get
better and bring both of you a lot closer.
9. The ninth stage is the complete trust. This is the happiest stage when both of you
love each other and trust each other completely. But at the same time, the
unbreakable trust in each other could also turn into taking each other for
granted. In this stage, both of you know the direction of the relationship and
both of you are completely happy with each other and find it easy to predict
each other’s behavior and decisions. But with stability in love comes the urge
to take each other for granted. As pleasant as this final stage of love may be,
it’s still no excuse to take each other lightly or stop appreciating each
other, because love is an intense emotion that can be rekindled by anyone else
at any time if you fail to express your romance to your lover.
If you are in a relationship for
a while and you may have experienced all or most of these stages. And if you
are still in a young relationship, don’t let the dark side of these
relationship stages scare you.
Identify your
present stage…..
WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARITAL HOME
WHAT MAKES A
HAPPY MARITAL HOME? AND STOP ASKING WHEN I AM GETTING MARRIED
Everyone be it you are a man or
a woman should know we all have our weaknesses. Only God does not have a
weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out
of him or her strength. Manage the weaknesses of your spouse with love to get
the best out of it. Do not be too critical, argumentative, excessively nagging
and demanding. These things kills love because they show lack of understanding
of the weaknesses of your spouse.
Everyone has a dark history. No
one is an angel here on Earth. When you get married or you want to get married
stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your
partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present
and the future for an enjoyable happy marriage life.
Every marriage has its own
challenges. Newly wedded couples in the field should know that marriage is not
a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing
fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up
your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow "For
better for worse". In "sickness" and in "health" you
will be there for each other. Then what suddenly happened? Married couples
should make friends with married partners.
Every marriage has different
levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with anyone else. We can never
be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be
patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true. United
you stand, divided you fall and fail in all your individual dreams.
Getting married is just like
declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of
marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
Let the couples came together in
fighting all this points in other to maintain a happy and enjoyable marriage
atmosphere.
There is NO perfect marriage
here on Earth. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it.
Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If
this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or
some unhealthy circumstances. Couples should not be careless with there
marriage.
God cannot give you a complete
person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in
order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved
through prayer, love and Patience
Getting married is equal to
taking a huge risk in life. You can not predict what will happen in the future.
Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good
job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful
otherwise you might seek for divorce but marriage is for togetherness until
death does you apart.
Marriage is not a contract, it's
a life engagement which depend on how prepared you are in this engagement.
Because it is permanent . It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that
sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind when the devil feeds the
mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your
spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce. Friends are
the highest devil in a marriage.
Before going into marriage know
that every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is compared to a bank account.
It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love,
peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.
Deliberately input Goodness into your marriage to make it sweet for your
spouse.
Today pray for your marriage and
ask God to help you anywhere you are lacking in your marriage.
God bless you
all.
MARRY A WIFE NOT A VIRGIN
Some or most guys think virginity makes a good wife.
Virginity is a pride to a woman. After your first copulation, it will exist no more. Don't thick of marrying her because she is a virgin,
marry because she's a WIFE.
A good wife,is a crown of the husband. Seek that good wife. Any
lady who failed as a daughter in her youthful single stage of life, is a
mistake for a wife. Because a lady is trained as a daughter to become the crown
of her husband. Marrying a virgin is a pride but it does not guarantee
successful marriage.
Seek the good qualities that make a woman a wife. To those of u
guy who are single, find a wife, I mean a good wife. Don't ruin your marriage
for the want of a virgin.
Virginity does not guarantee a successful marriage.... And for
the virgins acquire the good Qualities of a wife, don't make that pride you
kept so long to the last day become a waste.
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Before I met my now-husband, I had never really met someone who
I wanted to be with. I've had my fair share of chances of course, but it never
felt right. My now-husband was not a virgin when we met. I honestly wasn't even
planning on saving myself until marriage, but it was never a big part of our
relationship. Of course, there were nights that we would have fun in the
bedroom, and that would involve basically everything but sex. He knew I was a
virgin and wanted my first time to be special. We would have long conversations
about sex and what it meant to us, then I decided this is the man I'll marry.
When he proposed after two years of dating, we got married five months after.
To say we were excited was an understatement. Between gifts from my friends and
things I've been collecting, I had such a sexy wardrobe to wear over the
honeymoon. The morning after we were married, he woke up with me on top of him
in one of the sexy outfits I brought with me. There was a little discomfort the
first time, but since then, our sex life has been great. I have nothing to
compare it to, but neither of us are complaining. Sex has brought us closer together.
We had sex on our wedding night. I was a virgin until marriage, but my husband lost his virginity very young and has had sex with countless women. I guess sex was more of a letdown than anything. I was extremely discouraged by my lack of experience and also insecure in knowing that he's had a lot of previous experience. I've always been led to believe that sex for the first time will be awkward, maybe painful, but so great because you're exploring new things together. But since we weren't exploring something new together, sex wasn't what I expected it would be. It brought out a lot of insecurities in me, and I haven't been able to overcome all of those insecurities just yet. I think sex in a marriage is a whole lot deeper than just two bodies. It's hard to explain. But I was let down. Some aspects have gotten better. I feel more confident in what I'm doing. The insecurity in having less experience than my husband, and my husband having far more experience than me is still there.
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